Woo Woo

By Pauline Evanosky

There was a time when I was much younger that I had been taught to view the world as an either/or place. Either you were good, or you were bad. Either you were attractive or unattractive. Either you were smart, or you were stupid. Either you were popular, or you were unpopular.

It was simpler in those days to view life in that way.

It was soul-crushing, is what it was. Whatever my parents' opinions were, those were what I was told to believe. I have to correct that. Whatever my father's opinions were became the opinions of my mother and us kids. Like I said, it was soul-crushing before I even knew what soul-crushing meant.

However, we are always resilient. I grew to have more faith in people. I came to realize that people can be bad and then be good at the same time. I wondered how that could be. I decided they probably couldn’t act any other way and were to be pitied. It’s difficult to extend a helping hand to an offensive person, but I did run into a lot of them. As does anyone else.

As an adult, I began to see that I could set boundaries and not take it upon myself to become the patsy of narcissists.

These days? If I can identify somebody as a narcissist, I will go out of my way to remove myself from them as quickly as I can, even if it means quitting a job. Yes, you can live with a narcissist, but it involves you being on the offensive to try to call them out every time they try to manipulate you. It is tiring, but it can be done. I don’t have it in me to do that anymore. Nope. Go your way, you narcissistic person, and have a nice life with somebody else.

In any case, now I am a psychic medium channel. What does that mean? It means I talk to Spirit, to dead people, and can relay any messages to folks who come to me for a psychic reading. I’ve been doing this since 1993, having known it was possible for a good five years before that, and have been interested in that way of being since I was in high school, around the time I realized what my father believed was not what I believed.

So, it’s been a while since I’ve been interested in psychic things.

What is interesting to me, though, is that the messages that Spirit gives to the ones left behind have absolutely nothing to do with regret. They will not help you find lost articles. They will not explain themselves in ways that would either comfort or relieve the clients I get. I was surprised myself when it began happening, and it was then that my education of things psychic and spiritual began to grow.

So, yes, they are okay. No, they don’t want you to do anything. No, they are not sad when you make stupid decisions. Yes, they love you. Yes, they love you now when they once might have hated you. Yes, they are always in touch with you, with your family, and with what you are doing. The connection never stops. It is always there.

My own personal lessons in forgiveness began when I spoke with my father after he had passed. I still occasionally get angry at him because the road he showed me was a tough one to follow. I’m still falling into ruts at times, but I recognize that we are friends again.

Another thing that happened when I became psychic was that my faith grew tremendously. I once asked my spirit guide if anybody ever heard our prayers. He said something that startled me. He said every single one of our prayers is heard. He did not say they were considered, answered, or referred to somebody else. It is our responsibility to handle the tough aspects of our lives. There will not be any sort of divine intercession. Until there is.

I also learned about healing with energy. As a Reiki practitioner, I learned that we can send healing energy to people halfway across the world. We can ask for assistance from other Reiki practitioners or energy healers anytime we want. You don’t have to actually have been introduced to them for an effective exchange of energy to happen. However, you can never force healing energy upon somebody who doesn’t want it. That’s the rule. Or, at least, that’s what they told me. I have held to that rule and in my prayers I include the idea that this healing energy I am sending someone’s way can be accepted or rejected by the person. It’s free will.

I can remember once being irritated that a religious group in town was selecting names from the phone books, back when we had those, and baptizing people in their faith.

Irritated and amused all at the same time. How dare they? Well, how dare I take it upon myself to pray for somebody if they aren’t aware I’m doing it? So, I was sort of in a quandary until my spirit guide said that was why nuns prayed all the time. They weren’t necessarily praying for themselves; they were praying for whoever needed it. Sometimes people they knew. More often than not, I think, just for anybody who could use some prayer. That was what nuns did. They prayed.

Another aspect of healing is that not only must the person be willing to accept the healing, but they also need to take the necessary steps for it to occur. For instance, somebody who has manifested a broken heart while also frequently being in a drunken stupor. They are an alcoholic. They are drinking their problems away. They say they want a healing. Sure, but they are still going to have to go into psychotherapy to help them through their addiction. They are still going to have to stop drinking alcohol or using drugs. Anything that numbs a person is a weapon in an alcoholic’s hands. Likely, they will learn all sorts of things as they spend the rest of their life being a non-drinker. Probably, they will end up being a teacher for others in the same boat. Who knows? Healing can sometimes be much more difficult than our bones physically knitting together.

Something else I learned when I became a medium and a psychic channel. I differentiate the two because to me, a medium is somebody who is passing along messages from loved ones who have passed on, and a psychic channel is somebody who talks to spirits, which may include loved ones, but definitely includes those who act as teachers, which is a lot of people. I say people, but you could also be talking to animals. They go to Heaven, too.

If you want to learn more about psychics, spend some money and go to one or two. Each of us is unique and, like all people, interprets the world through our individual beliefs. There are psychics who utilize a bunch of rules like grounding yourself, wearing specific colors, or burning sage, all sorts of things to help the connection along. Also, tools of divination can be used to give psychic readings. I’m talking about pendulums, Tarot, or Runes. I have no rules other than not to ask the same questions repeatedly. That is tiring.

My reasoning is that if I learned how to do this, anybody can. You don’t have to be special in any way. This is one of your senses. You know something else? It wasn’t until I began to channel that I realized how much Spirit moves through our lives without us being fully aware of it.

It's not magic, yet it is magic.

Thanks for reading. See you next month.